and even then they do what they want Mario ... just ask Nick ...You make light of this, but the reality should be quite the opposite. If you have not experienced death in a Thai family yet, then you are in for some new experiences. You, as a farang, should in my opinion definitely have a will and it should be quite specific about your desires. I think you should be able to get excellent advice about this from member Prachonchai Nick, but like most everything in Thailand, up to you.
Here in our neck of the Khmer woods there is no gambling or drinking at funerals. Tons of food, yes, Chinese tables filled with many courses of food, but no drinking or booze, thankfully.I have left clear instructions for my wife - keep it minimal! Buy no food or drink for anyone, no gambling either, and that will keep the numbers down. Get the job done as quick as you can.
I appreciate that. But the Thai wife is generally "in charge" of the Farang husband's funeral which, in my experience, lasts no longer than a day.
Here in our neck of the Khmer woods there is no gambling or drinking at funerals. Tons of food, yes, Chinese tables filled with many courses of food, but no drinking or booze, thankfully.
Told my Mrs many times I want no monks, and if they come I will jump out of my box. Strikes the fear of Buddha into her!
No worries Nick, she loves you.
You'll probably have nine monks chanting three or four days for you.
(Really, once your dead what difference will it make.)