Stevo,
It isn't a question of having no one we can trust.
I can't be the only person who has told their partner their requirements only to find that they didn't quite understand what was required and instead of clarifying matters with you they applied their own interpretation of what was required. I am sure it is the face thing - not wanting to admit that their English isn't perfect.
I only wish my Thai was one hundredth as good as my partners English but he wants to be perfect in front of other Thai people.
This is a massive point.
I know I am not the only person who has had issues with their partner when dealing with other Thais.
We had a huge row in Bangkok Bank because Jip appeared to "side" with the imbecile of a clerk who insisted I could register my mobile phone number for online banking via the ATM. I KNEW that you could not do this because I had researched it on the BKB website (which is actually very good/informative).
I was encouraged (by Jip) to follow the girl to the ATM, which I did, and she promptly failed to get the phone number registered.
Apparently, "now will you fcuking believe me" was not the best response I could have chosen to help the mood of the occasion.
Things didn't go well a week earlier when "'we" went in to open my account, I now realise that I am misguided in using the term "we" because it always becomes Farang vs Thai. No good suggesting that I change the missus because I believe the significant majority would act no diiferently to Jip.
Having studied the website I knew exactly what I needed to meet account opening requirements and I printed off the BKB account opening form (which included details such as mobile phone numbers). I also completed an application for online banking.
It was therefore surprising to be told that "Alien can only have account if they have work permit".
I stamped my feet, suggested they looked at their own website and the manager eventually came out and 'agreed' to open the account. My missus saw this as some huge favour and concession to the Falang. My response of "too fcuking right he will" did nothing for Thai/Anglo relations.
I am a tolerant person and particularly so when dealing with Thais in the 'boonies', but, I will not tolerate obstacles being persistently put in my way of getting things done. It was no surprise that the clerk totally ignored my pre-prepared application and completed her own. She also asked Jip for her phone number and ID (totally unnecessary).
I am used to going through such fiascos and the only the fact that I really wanted the BKB account prevented me from walking out.
So, unfortunately we are not all as fluent in Thai as stevo and usually we choose our partners to act as translators. Frankly, they are not capable of performing JUST that role because of their own limitations and the Thai culture of not questioning anyone who wears anything more than a cleaners uniform.
In future I will not use my missus in such situations because it does nothing for relationship harmony (read sex life :redface
and achieves bugger all. If it is important like legal work I will go to Sebastian - in the unlikely event that I use a Thai lawyer (who cannot speak English) I will pay for a proper translator. I think the guy in Buriram provides one.
For dealing with others such as banks, PEA, local authority etc then either Jip can go alone or I will. In hindsight I would probably have achieved more at BKB being on my own.
In some cases Thai dealing with Thai achieves significantly more than a Falang dealing on his own (unless he has stevos fluency of Thai). A couple of great purchases at Homepro and Thai Watsadu would not have happened if two Thais had not conversed together.